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Our relationship with ourselves is the foundation for every other relationship we have.

But most of us put ourselves last. Solo work is one way to prioritize your relationship with yourself in a meaningful way.

In addition to my couples coaching work, I’ve been blessed to support hundreds of folks individually as they get clear about what they want and need in partnership with others.

Things I help solo clients with:

  • breaking free from the default relationship patterns you grew up with

  • clarifying your boundaries & standing up for yourself

  • navigating jealousy, insecurity, and relationship anxiety with confidence

  • maintaining autonomy while building meaningful connection

  • exploring and reclaiming desire and passion

  • sexual empowerment and body sovereignty

  • working through and learning from a break-up

  • changing conflict patterns

  • managing intense emotions in relationships

  • building self-compassion and shame resilience

  • dating with integrity and choosing better partners

  • asking for what you need

  • getting the support and love you deserve

  • thinking creatively about relationships outside of the box

I’m sick of working with therapists and never really seeing anything change. Gina is different. I always walk away with things to think about and action steps to take. I feel like I’m making real progress for the first time.
— Sarah, Portland OR
 

BEGINNING SOLO COACHING

Many people lose a sense of connection to themselves and to each other over the years. This is a sign you need a refresh.

In coaching we’ll start by identifying your core values, desires, and needs and how we can utilize your unique strengths to reinvigorate your vision.

THE SOLO COACHING PROCESS

After that initial strengths assessment and introduction we’ll meet for at least five sessions to give you a tune-up in five essential relationship areas.

I’ve broken down the four most common areas folks struggle so we can make adjustments with intention and integrity and build meaningful supports for you moving forward.

It’s not unusual for clients to identify one of these areas as their main focus for this work. We spend additional sessions clarifying areas of strength, practical tools, and skills to grow.

I’ll support you in making the necessary shifts to cultivate passion, create healthy boundaries, and strengthen trust and boost your confidence as you navigate intimate relationships.

 
 

TRANSFORMATIONAL SUPPORT

I’ve offered support to hundreds of incredible clients as they navigate major relationship transitions. Read more about my work with folks in these areas:

 

WHAT’S INCLUDED IN SOLO COACHING?

  • A full relationship assessment to identify your unique relationship strengths.

  • 60-minute coaching sessions twice monthly to sustain meaningful change and deep self-connection.

  • Optional coaching office hours for quick coaching when you’re in a pinch.

  • Advanced invitations to my sold-out monthly Relationship Master Classes.

  • Access to my entire relationship tool library (1000+ pages) for life.

  • Invitations to quarterly and annual tune-up sessions and discounted programs to sustain lasting meaningful change.

 

INVESTING IN REAL CHANGE

The benefits of coaching, like any learning process, are a result of the investment you’re willing to make. Clients in couples coaching invest in three main ways:

TIME

Time scarcity is a real issue many of my clients struggle with. When you engage in coaching you are investing valuable time into changing the patterns in your partnership.

  • Most clients meet me 2x per month, though some opt for additional sessions during times of significant stress or confusion. I ask clients to commit to one repeating meeting time in our schedules to create some reliability and regularity for our conversations.

  • I ask all clients to agree to a three-month coaching agreement to ensure more sustainable change and growth. I’m not interested in quick-fixes that leave you feeling great for a moment and then hopeless when they prove unsustainable. With three months as a baseline, we’re far better prepared to implement meaningful growth.

ENERGY

Few people think about the emotional energy involved in doing relationship work. It’s important you’re really able to show up authentically, be seen and vulnerable, and be really honest with yourself, me, and your partner. Even for highly functioning couples this can mean a big shift in your communication patterns.

  • All relationships are co-created. Therefore, for coaching to work please be open to self-reflection and personal accountability. Be ready to look at your own contributions to the dynamics between you.

  • I highly recommend you bolster your self-care practices to nourish your body, mind, and soul as we work together. Consider hiring individual support, a therapist, coach, or spiritual leader who you can work through things individually with in addition to our couples work.

  • Our work continues beyond session. I will offer you reading, videos, recordings, and reflection guides to support your work and growth outside session. The more you can engage in these thoughtfully the more impact our work will have in your life.

MONEY

  • I bill all clients on a monthly basis (for 2 sessions per month) with a credit card they keep on file. I do not bill insurance plans, though many clients have used FSA and HSA cards to pay me. Additional sessions are paid per session.

 
I can’t believe I made it into my forties without knowing this stuff!
Gina is a great teacher about all the things you never knew you need to know about relationships.
— Holly & William, Chicago, IL
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Our relationship with ourselves is the foundation for every other relationship we have. Too many clients I work with are far more loving to others than they ever are with themselves. I work to correct that balance.

Learning the skills of mindfulness-based self-compassion we work to balance personal accountability with self-compassion and self-respect. Together we’ll build a more loving relationship for you with yourself so you can choose healthier relationships with others too.

Gina helped me love myself first. I’m clear with myself and can ask partners for what I need now.
— Leah, New York City
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Listening to Gina’s talk tonight rocked me to my core. I’ve known I was ready to transform my life and felt stagnant in my relationships but now I’m ready and prepared to do something about it.
— Jocelynn, Portland, OR
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Many of the individual clients I support have lost themselves- or at least their personal passions and pleasures over time. Maybe they’ve focused on work, or family, or their marriage… whatever the case many of them have lost connection to themselves- and felt a slowly waning sense of desire, purpose, or inner fire.

I’ve also seen hundreds of clients through erotic awakenings. Many of them leaving long-term relationships, or moving through life awakenings realizing they want more passion, sex, intimacy and eroticism. I’ve helped them claim sexual power with integrity and ferocious self-care. Maybe it’s time for your own awakening?

 

Listen to our podcast episode about owning your personal erotic template:

When we started working together I felt like I was split into two people. Working with you helped me collect my pieces and integrate my life with more meaning.
I couldn’t have done it without you.
— Susan, Madison, WI
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 Whether you’re coming back to dating after a long-term relationship, or you’ve never really gotten yourself into one having a supportive non-judgmental confidant by your side as you navigate the dating world can help you stay on track with what you want.

All too often I see folks lose themselves in the excitement of new relationships and accidentally end up replaying old patterns. Working with me will help you clarify what you really want, and create a path toward love, passion, and intimacy with intention.

 

Listen to our podcast episode about dating in the real world:

I don’t know how I did relationships for forty-four years without Gina.
— Hellen, Portland, OR
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She tells it like it is. I really like that every week I walk away with something to think about or actually do.
Gina never coddles me and is pretty directive- which I need. I always know she’s on my side, but she never holds back.
— Liz, Portland, OR

WHAT TO EXPECT FROM OUR WORK:

WHAT I DO

  • Use a strengths-based approach to help you grow

  • Bring a decade of experience helping hundreds of incredible people deeply connect to themselves and the people they love

  • Help you listen and communicate effectively, end repetitive argument cycles, and let go of baggage

  • Use a sex-positive framework and vast sexuality knowledge to fan flames of passion between you

  • Identify ways to manage intense emotions

  • Rebuild trust and renew intimacy

  • Keep momentum and hope alive - even if it's hard for you to feel hopeful

  • Deeply care about your personal growth and well-being and at the same time hold you accountable to the goals you set for yourself

WHAT I DON'T DO

  • Sit and nod - instead, we'll take action. Be forewarned: I've been described as "direct and not-coddling."

  • Add shame or judgment to your experience (there's already WAY too much of that in the world)

  • Get stagnant. I will check in to see if this is working- focusing and refocusing on action and change in your life

  • Collude with your inner critics to let you stay small

  • Treat you like you're broken (because you're not)

  • Assume your experience is the same as mine or anyone else's

  • Pathologize you (I don't treat mental illness, so you won't receive a diagnosis, assessment or treatment for mental health conditions or substance use)

I didn’t realize that this work would make me a better person beyond my primary partnership.
Thank you, Gina!
— Melissa, London, UK