I've helped thousands of couples maintain passionate, fulfilling,deeply connected lasting relationships.  Are you next?

Look, It's very easy to lose track of ourselves amid the inspiration, aspiration, and dedication of career success, family life, and all the other hustle that comes with a fulfilling vibrant life. 

But when we lose ourselves we simply cannot authentically connect to another.

I've seen the impact many years of day-to-day grind can have on intimate relationships first hand. 

Over the last ten years I've created a process using clinical expertise, scientific research in relationships, and professional experience to identify your strengths as well as your areas for growth in relationship through relationship coaching. 

 

BEGINNING COUPLES COACHING

Most couples lose a sense of connection to themselves and to each other over the years. This isn’t a reflection of your relationship’s end- merely a sign it needs a refresh.

In couples coaching we’ll start by identifying your shared values and your unique relationship’s strengths to draw from as we reinvigorate your shared vision.

 

THE COUPLES COACHING PROCESS

After that initial strengths assessment and introduction we’ll meet for at least five sessions to give your partnership a tune-up in five essential relationship areas.

I’ve broken down the most common areas long-term couples struggle so we can make adjustments with intention and integrity and build meaningful supports for your relationship.

It’s not unusual for clients to identify one of these areas as their main focus for this work. We spend additional sessions clarifying areas of strength, practical tools, and skills to grow.

I can support you in making the necessary shifts to create deeper physical and emotional intimacy, more fun, and strengthened trust.

 

SUSTAINABLE SUPPORT & RELATIONSHIP MAINTENANCE

If you’ve been together a while you know lasting change doesn’t happen overnight. I’ve created multiple options for continued coaching, and support for my clients long after they’ve completed this initial process.

Some stay on for monthly coaching sessions, others meet me for quarterly or annual retreats and many more join my monthly group coaching sessions to tune-up communication skills along the way.

You don’t have to commit to long-term work now, but I want you to know once we’ve worked together I am here for you whenever your relationship needs support to sustain the growth and change you need.

 
When we started working with Gina I wasn’t sure we would make it through. She got us back on the same team after we hadn’t really been talking for at least six years.
— Jade & Jesse, Troutdale, OR
 
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Deeply connected couples do one significant thing differently: they balance they stable commitment to each other with their ability to flex, grow and change over time.

Far too often as we grow comfortably connected, we lose our sense of self and the functionality of our relationship begins to override the passion and desire we need to maintain vibrancy and intimacy.

If this resonates with you, you’re not alone. I’ve helped thousands of couples like you. And I can help you too.

Is couples coaching right for you?

  • If you’ve grown a little distant over time, or you’ve lost the spark that kept things hot early on.

  • If you’re not sure how to reconnect in meaningful intimate ways.

  • If you’re committed to staying together, but you know something needs to change.

 

What’s included in couples counseling?

  • A full relationship assessment to identify your unique relationship strengths.

  • 90-minute coaching sessions twice monthly to sustain meaningful change and deep connection.

  • Optional individual coaching office hours for quick coaching when you’re in a pinch.

  • Advanced invitations to my sold-out monthly Relationship Master Classes.

  • Access to my entire relationship tool library (1000+ pages) for life.

  • Invitations to quarterly and annual tune-up sessions and discounted programs to sustain lasting meaningful change.

 
 
I can’t believe I made it into my forties without knowing this stuff!
Gina is a great teacher about all the things you never knew you need to know about relationships.
— Holly & William, Chicago, Illinois
 

Your investment

The benefits of coaching, like any learning process, are a result of the investment you’re willing to make. Clients in couples coaching invest in three main ways:

TIME

Time scarcity is a real issue many of my clients struggle with. When you engage in coaching you are investing valuable time into changing the patterns in your partnership.

  • Most clients meet me 2x per month, though some opt for additional sessions during times of significant stress or confusion. I ask clients to commit to one repeating meeting time in our schedules to create some reliability and regularity for our conversations.

  • I ask all clients to agree to a three-month coaching agreement to ensure more sustainable change and growth. I’m not interested in quick-fixes that leave you feeling great for a moment and then hopeless when they prove unsustainable. With three months as a baseline, we’re far better prepared to implement meaningful growth.

ENERGY

Few people think about the emotional energy involved in doing relationship work. It’s important you’re really able to show up authentically, be seen and vulnerable, and be really honest with yourself, me, and your partner. Even for highly functioning couples this can mean a big shift in your communication patterns.

  • All relationships are co-created. Therefore, for coaching to work please be open to self-reflection and personal accountability. Be ready to look at your own contributions to the dynamics between you.

  • I highly recommend you bolster your self-care practices to nourish your body, mind, and soul as we work together. Consider hiring individual support, a therapist, coach, or spiritual leader who you can work through things individually with in addition to our couples work.

  • Our work continues beyond session. I will offer you reading, videos, recordings, and reflection guides to support your work and growth outside session. The more you can engage in these thoughtfully the more impact our work will have in your life.

MONEY

  • I bill all clients on a monthly basis (for 2 sessions per month) with a credit card they keep on file. I do not bill insurance plans, though many clients have used FSA and HSA cards to pay me. Additional sessions are paid per session.


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“It used to feel like we were always on the same page, but I haven’t felt that way for years.”

“A while back I felt like we could read each other’s mind. I’ve never felt so understood. I miss that feeling.”

“I miss feeling like we are teammates cheering for each other.”

 

If any of these resonate with you now is the time to start coaching.

We can’t move forward together if we don’t know where we’re going. I support couples in shaping a shared vision based in their unique personal values so you can move forward as a solid team as well as encourage each other’s individual dreams.

As we begin our work I’ll have you complete a formal relationship strengths assessment process to identify your unique personal and shared values, strengths, and goals.

We’ll use that information to create a meaningful shared vision of the future you can build upon with enthusiasm.

 
In our very first session Gina saw something in us I hadn’t realized in seven years together. That shifted everything.
— Sarah & Tara, Portland, OR
passion after marriage

Lacking desire, waning passion, and overall mismatched intimacy needs are the number one reason couples come to talk with me. I’m telling you this for two reasons:

  1. It’s not just you, this is super common.

  2. There are LOTS of ways we can work through this.

If that’s you, please don’t wait to call me. I want to help you reconnect with pleasure, desire, playfulness, and yes, even sex.

This isn’t just about physical intimacy- true passion is as much about emotional intimacy and depth as it is physical.

And even couples who have a good sex life can usually use a tune-up in the area of passion to support a lifetime of pleasure and shared intimacy.

 

Listen to our podcast episode about passion in long-term partnerships:

After seven years we stopped sleeping together and didn’t really know why. I know it seems so obvious, but Gina got us to talk about sex like, really talk about it with each other.
I know it sounds cheesy but now it’s like we have soul-sex.
— Vanessa & Soren, Atlanta, GA
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In twelve years supporting healthy relationships I’ve seen FAR too many couples get stuck when managing the day-to-day tasks of life. They’re overwhelmed by responsibilities that leave them distant, overwhelmed and resentful.

I’ve created a process to help you get clear about what meaningful support and responsibility sharing can look like in your life so all those tasks don’t get in the way of your vibrant connection.

Let’s talk about the ways you WANT to live your life together and create a clear sustainable plan to work as a team toward your shared dreams.

 

Listen to our podcast episode about sharing household responsibilities:

Gina makes the most complex parts of our relationship problems really easy to understand. I didn’t know I needed to learn so much about relationships.
I walked away seeing things from a new perspective.
— Dan & Megan, Buffalo, New York
communication skills for relationships

Communication issues are the number one reason people seek my services- but the actual issues are very different in each unique couple.

Even the most skilled communicators can get stuck in unhealthy cyclical conflicts with intimate partners. We’ve all got room to grow. I’ve helped thousands of clients make tiny changes in their communication patterns that add up to powerful long-lasting shifts in the relationship.

Join me as we explore the skills and strengths each of you bring to the table as communicators, and utilize those to overcome stuck conflict, change unhealthy patterns, and reach deeper understanding.

 

Listen to our podcast episode about sexual communication in relationships

We fight less now. And when we do it’s way better. We get over it quicker and I don’t always worry she’s leaving me.
— Elsa & Erikah, Portland, OR
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Yes, you love each other. Yes, you’re great friends. Yes, it’s good you want to be together- but if you’re like most couples I see over time you’ve lost a little sense of independence and autonomy over the time you’ve been together.

Every couple needs to establish a healthy balance of autonomy (investing in personal passions, hobbies, self-care practices and friendships) and togetherness. Often the longer we’re together (and the larger the family and community we build) the less “me time” we get and the more we start to lose ourselves in the crowd.

Striking a healthy balance helps restore passion, intimacy, and reinforce trust in relationships. Let me help you reconnect with yourselves individually so you can connect to each other.

 

 

Listen to our podcast episode about attachment styles in relationships:

Gina, I can’t thank you enough for all of your help. We wouldn’t have made it through this year without you.
— Katia & Davis, Chicago, Illinois
trust in relationships

We often talk about trust as if it’s an all-or-nothing issue. Either we have trust or we don’t, we’re trustworthy or we’re not. But trust isn’t that simple, it’s built up in tiny moments over years in partnership- and eroded in big and small ways.

Even the strongest partnerships I’ve supported have needed a little trust tune-up. When we work together I’ll walk you through the basics of building and repairing trust to help you stay stronger together long-term.

Listen to my podcast episode outlining the foundations of trust in relationships:

When we came [to see Gina] it felt like we were each doing our own thing. Now it feels like this is something we’re doing together... something that will bring us even closer. It was really good for me to have a facilitator help me move from scarcity and fear to connection.
— Alissa & Stephanie, Seattle, WA

WHAT TO EXPECT FROM OUR WORK:

WHAT I DO

  • Use a strengths-based approach to help you grow

  • Bring a decade of experience helping hundreds of incredible people deeply connect to themselves and the people they love

  • Help you listen and communicate effectively, end repetitive argument cycles, and let go of baggage

  • Use a sex-positive framework and vast sexuality knowledge to fan flames of passion between you

  • Identify ways to manage intense emotions

  • Rebuild trust and renew intimacy

  • Keep momentum and hope alive - even if it's hard for you to feel hopeful

  • Deeply care about your personal growth and well-being and at the same time hold you accountable to the goals you set for yourself

WHAT I DON'T DO

  • Sit and nod - instead, we'll take action. Be forewarned: I've been described as "direct and not-coddling."

  • Add shame or judgment to your experience (there's already WAY too much of that in the world)

  • Get stagnant. I will check in to see if this is working- focusing and refocusing on action and change in your life

  • Collude with your inner critics to let you stay small

  • Treat you like you're broken (because you're not)

  • Assume your experience is the same as mine or anyone else's

  • Pathologize you (I don't treat mental illness, so you won't receive a diagnosis, assessment or treatment for mental health conditions or substance use)