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FREE CALL ANNOUNCEMENT: MAKING IT WORK: MANAGING A HOUSEHOLD & STAYING IN LOVE

MONTHLY FREE COACHING CALL

Every month I host a free call for a small group on topics essential to success in love and entrepreneurship. 

We focus the conversation on tangible skills you can easily implement in your relationship and small business to build the deeply connected life of your dreams.

One hour max.  Always fun.  Always free.


MANAGING A HOUSEHOLD & STAYING IN LOVE

Fri, October 11, 2019

12:00 PM – 1:00 PM CDT

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Join this month's free call to learn more about the NUMBER ONE thing couples come into my office complaining about: managing a household (together) and staying in love.

Here's what we'll cover:

1. How to get clear about what you think, feel, and need.

2. How to equally share household management responsibilities.

3. Setting healthy boundaries- with care.

4. Staying passionately and intimately connected while managing a full life and home.

We'll end with a quick coaching session to answer your specific questions about balancing life, mundane tasks, and intimate connection in your own relationship!

When you register I'll send you an access code for my free relationship tool library, which includes eight specific tools and guides for healthy communication.

And you'll get a copy of my Household Management Plan for Couples to use at home!

Sign up today and join the conversation!

ABOUT YOUR COACH

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Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a communication consultant, sexuality counselor and certified relationship coach specializing in polyamory, open relationships, jealousy, and infidelity.  

She coaches online clients all over the world and leads retreats in the U.S.

Call me for a free consultation to rethink the way you do relationships.


FREE CALL ANNOUNCEMENT: Compassionate Communication Skills

MONTHLY FREE COACHING CALL

Every month I host a free call for a small group on topics essential to success in love and entrepreneurship. 

We focus the conversation on tangible skills you can easily implement in your relationship and small business to build the deeply connected life of your dreams.

One hour max.  Always fun.  Always free.


COMPASSIONATE COMMUNICATION SKILLS

Fri, September 13, 2019

12:00 PM – 1:00 PM CDT

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Join this month's free call to learn the kind of communication skills you need but likely never learned to deeply connect in long-term relationships.

Here's what we'll cover:

1. How to get clear about what you think, feel, and need.

2. Clearly asking for what you want.

3. Setting healthy boundaries- with care.

4. Listening for deeper connection in intimate partnerships.

We'll end with a quick coaching session to answer your specific questions about jealousy and insecurity in your own relationship!

When you register I'll send you an access code for my free relationship tool library, which includes eight specific tools and guides for healthy communication.

And you'll get a copy of my compassionate communication guidelines to use at home!

Sign up today and join the conversation!

ABOUT YOUR COACH

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Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a communication consultant, sexuality counselor and certified relationship coach specializing in polyamory, open relationships, jealousy, and infidelity.  

She coaches online clients all over the world and leads retreats in the U.S.

Call me for a free consultation to rethink the way you do relationships.


FREE CALL ANNOUNCEMENT: Managing Jealousy & Insecurity in Healthy Relationships

MONTHLY FREE COACHING CALL

Every month I host a free call for a small group on topics essential to success in love and entrepreneurship. 

We focus the conversation on tangible skills you can easily implement in your relationship and small business to build the deeply connected life of your dreams.

One hour max.  Always fun.  Always free.


MANAGING JEALOUSY & INSECURITY IN RELATIONSHIPS

Fri, August 16, 2019

12:00 PM – 1:00 PM CDT

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Join this month's free call to learn the skills you need to manage the intensity of jealousy and insecurity so they don't negatively impact the relationships that matter most to you.

Here's what we'll cover:

1. How to identify, interrupt, and befriend your jealous reactions.

2. Skills to channel your reactive emotions for stronger connection.

3. How to communicate effectively when insecurity and jealousy come up.

4. Practices to nourish trust in your intimate partnerships.

We'll end with a quick coaching session to answer your specific questions about jealousy and insecurity in your own relationship!

When you register I'll send you an access code for my free relationship tool library, which includes eight specific tools and guides for healthy communication.

And you'll get a copy of my workbook, Managing Jealousy in Romantic Relationships.

Sign up today and join the conversation!

ABOUT YOUR COACH

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Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a communication consultant, sexuality counselor and certified relationship coach specializing in polyamory, open relationships, jealousy, and infidelity.  

She coaches online clients all over the world and leads retreats in the U.S.

Call me for a free consultation to rethink the way you do relationships.


FREE CALL ANNOUNCEMENT: Healthy Conflicts Skills for Couples

MONTHLY FREE COACHING CALL

Every month I host a free call for a small group on topics essential to success in love and entrepreneurship. 

We focus the conversation on tangible skills you can easily implement in your relationship and small business to build the deeply connected life of your dreams.

One hour max.  Always fun.  Always free.


HEALTHY CONFLICT SKILLS FOR COUPLES

Fri, July 12, 2019

12:00 PM – 1:00 PM CDT

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Join this month's free call to learn the skills and solutions commonly practiced in successful non-traditional relationships.

Here's what we'll cover:

1. The five simple rules to fighting better that create a foundation for healthy conflict.

2. Three essential skills to manage intense emotions when they come up in conversation.

3. How to interrupt cyclical conflicts (the ones that just keep coming up again and again and again and again).

4. How to reach a meaningful resolution and feel heard once and for all.

We'll end with a quick coaching session to answer your specific questions about conflict in your own relationship!

When you register I'll send you an access code for my free relationship tool library, which includes eight specific tools and guides for healthy communication. And you'll get a copy of my workbook, Five Simple Ways to Fight Better Now.

Sign up today and join the conversation!

ABOUT YOUR COACH

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Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a communication consultant, sexuality counselor and certified relationship coach specializing in polyamory, open relationships, jealousy, and infidelity.  

She coaches online clients all over the world and leads retreats in the U.S.

Call me for a free consultation to rethink the way you do relationships.


FREE CALL ANNOUNCEMENT: Overcoming Trust Issues in Healthy Relationships

MONTHLY FREE COACHING CALL

Every month I host a free call for a small group on topics essential to success in love and entrepreneurship. 

We focus the conversation on tangible skills you can easily implement in your relationship and small business to build the deeply connected life of your dreams.

One hour max.  Always fun.  Always free.


OVERCOMING TRUST ISSUES IN HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

Fri, June 14, 2019

12:00 PM – 1:00 PM CDT

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Join this month's free call to learn the five foundations of trust and how to nourish them in the relationships that matter most to you.

Here's what we'll cover:

1. The trust we've uncovered in research about trust in relationships.

2. How to cultivate more self-trust.

3. Practices to nourish trust in your intimate partnerships.

4. How to repair trust when it's been broken.

We'll end with a quick coaching session to answer your specific questions about trust in your own relationship!

When you register I'll send you an access code for my free relationship tool library, which includes eight specific tools and guides for healthy communication.

And you'll get a copy of my workbook, Overcoming Trust Issues in Romantic Relationships.

Sign up today and join the conversation!

ABOUT YOUR COACH

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Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a communication consultant, sexuality counselor and certified relationship coach specializing in polyamory, open relationships, jealousy, and infidelity.  

She coaches online clients all over the world and leads retreats in the U.S.

Call me for a free consultation to rethink the way you do relationships.


FREE CALL ANNOUNCEMENT: Six Forms of Intimacy and Deeper Connection in Relationships

MONTHLY FREE COACHING CALL

Every month I host a free call for a small group on topics essential to success in love and entrepreneurship. 

We focus the conversation on tangible skills you can easily implement in your relationship and small business to build the deeply connected life of your dreams.

One hour max.  Always fun.  Always free.

These events often fill quickly. Hop on the waitlist to get access to the recording and be notified when a space becomes available.

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Join this month's very intimate free call to learn what you need to know to sustain intimacy in long-term relationships.

Here's what we'll cover:

1. The six forms of intimacy you need to sustain vibrant fulfilling relationships.

2. How to cultivate intimate friendships without breaking trust.

3. How to manage insecurity in relationships.

4. How to better balance independence and meaningful connection in intimate partnerships.

We'll end with a quick coaching session to answer your specific questions about intimacy in your own relationship!

Whether you join us or not, download these Ten Journal Prompts for

When you register I'll send you an access code for my free relationship tool library, which includes eight specific tools and guides for healthy communication and boundaries. It also hosts my consent and intimacy guides for passionate partnerships.

Sign up today and join the conversation!


ABOUT YOUR COACH

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Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a communication consultant, sexuality counselor and certified relationship coach specializing in polyamory, open relationships, jealousy, and infidelity.  

She coaches online clients all over the world and leads retreats in the U.S.

Call me for a free consultation to rethink the way you do relationships.

Four Agreements in Romantic Relationships

Don Miguel Ruiz’s The Four Agreements transformed the way I think about communication with myself and with the people I love. I know for some the spiritual undertones can be off-putting, but for many of my clients over the years it has offered really powerful wisdom.

The overall theme is that four simple yet profound rules can have an enormous impact on our life and relationships. Focusing on each of them has helped me live a more intentional, integrity-fueled life and build more mindful connected relationships.

These agreements not only apply to life in general but are absolutely critical in dating. I’ll dive deeper into each of them below. You can also download this beautiful printout of all the agreements to help you keep them in focus.:


Agreement 1: Be Impeccable With Your Word

Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using your words to speak against yourself or others. Use the power of your words to grow truth and love.

Being clear with your intentions, expectations, and boundaries in relationships is the best path to connection and the only way to avoid misunderstandings.

When I began to focus on this agreement I noticed many innocent lies I told throughout the day. I might run into someone I know and say “we should get together sometime” knowing I would never truly follow up. These white lies add up, and wear on us over time. And for many of us this culminates in a pattern of over-promising and over-committing in relationships. Committing to this agreement means being really honest with yourself and others all the time.

I also appreciate the focus of this agreement on being really mindful of the words we choose to create a life and commit to a narrative that works for us. The stories we tell ourselves have direct impact on our happiness and the ways people around us respond to us. Take care in choosing the stories you hold as true, and the ones you share.


Agreement 2: Don’t Take Anything Personally

Realize that nothing others do is because of you, but instead a projection of their own reality, self-work, and dreams. When you are immune to the opinions of others it will free you from needless suffering.

Let me be clear here: I’m not saying you should stop caring about anyone else. But most of us care a little too much. I see so many folks tied up in anxiety and conflict because they are too closely connected to their partner’s feelings- or worse, their perception of their partner’s feelings.

This is huge when dealing with rejection. Once you accept that rejection isn’t personal, it starts to roll off your back. Maybe your partner had a bad day, maybe someone in their past was a jerk, or maybe they’re just unhappy- unrelated to you.

Their emotional experience is beyond your control. You can help them feel a little better, but their choice to feel better does have to start from within. There’s no value in stressing about something that’s out of your hands and not about you.

Now, of course there are times something you’ve done will spark a reaction in someone else. You can still own your mistake or the impact you had on someone else without taking it personally. That might sound like responding “I’m sorry, I was running behind, and that resulted in you being late and nervous.” instead of “I am sorry I’m such a jackass. I always mess this stuff up.” Can you feel the difference?

It’s really important you take responsibility for your actions and work on improving it to minimize negative impacts on others. But don’t let it determine your self worth or define your character.

You can do better- and you will.


Agreement 3: Don’t Make Assumptions

Ask questions and communicate as clearly as you can about misunderstandings. Stay curious about yourself and the others around you to create room to honor each of your individuality and growth.

I’ve written extensively about this in the past, so I won’t bore you here, but staying curious about your sweetheart is the easiest way to avoid growing stagnant and bored in long-term relationships. Invest energy in understanding them instead of assuming they’ll never change.

The same goes for yourself. Stay curious about your thoughts, feelings, and reactions to others- there’s always plenty to learn and the more you assume you know, the less self-awareness you are likely practicing.

Most of the couples I see stuck in struggle are clinging to resentments, assumptions, and misinterpretations without really exploring them. These keep us disconnected and often lead to bitterness. Nobody wants that.

The path to fulfillment is learning and growth- neither of which will happen without a little curiosity.


Agreement 4: Always Do Your Best

Your best will change moment to moment (with your health, energy, and experience) but by investing the best of yourself you’ll avoid self-judgment and regret.

So often the regrets we beat ourselves up about are the times we didn’t act with intention, integrity- or as our best selves. Committing to doing your best all them time helps us avoid regretful missteps.

But committing to always doing your best doesn’t mean becoming a perfectionist, or striving for some high-level output 100 percent of the time. Doing your best also means being clear with yourself and those around you about what you can do, how you can show up, and what you can give moment-to-moment and say-to-day. The more mindful you are of your internal state, energy level, and competency in the different and changing areas of life, the better equipped you’ll be to communicate this with the people you care for.

If you enjoyed this, I highly recommend you pick up The Four Agreements as well as Don Miguel’s other books, The Mastery of Love and Voice of Knowledge. They are about forming healthy relationships and defeating inner voices that cause suffering and anxiety, respectively.


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Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a communication consultant, sexuality counselor and certified relationship coach specializing in healthy communication, passionate relationships, jealousy, and infidelity.  

She leads workshops and couples retreats in the Midwestern United States and Pacific Northwest and consults with clients online. Access her free Relationship Resource Toolbox here, or join her next FREE Monthly Relationships Masterclass coaching call.

Connect with her on social media or schedule a free consultation to see if her support could help you build more fulfilling, connected partnerships.

End of Year Reflection for Relationships: Envision a Shared Future

The turn of the year is a beautiful time for reflection. 

Having an annual pause for reflection helps us identify where we want to grow and how we want to change in the coming year.  

We reflect on our year and set personal resolutions for a better year to come.

Yet few of us use this awareness review and renew with our partner.  Give your love the attention it deserves, start a new awareness practice this season.  

Download this totally free 4-Part Annual Relationship Renewal Series and you'll get my simple process to reconnect with meaning and transform your partnership with intention as the year turns. 

Click the image below to download your free copy.


"What I like most about change is that it’s a synonym for ‘hope.’ If you're taking a risk, what you're really saying is, ‘I believe in tomorrow and I will be part of it'"

- LINDA ELLERBEE

One of the most critical differences in couples who move forward together and those who don't make it is their ability to cultivate and nourish a shared vision of the future.  

Those who tend their visions together like a garden- (diligently, gently, and frequently) are far more likely to move toward and fulfill shared aspirations.

Every great garden starts with a clear vision.  From that vision, we can create and follow a plan- together.

Today we cultivate that shared vision.  

Once again, give yourself time to sit on your own and reflect on these and write out your responses.  Use the power of your written words to cultivate new meaning together. Check in and share with your partner only after you've had time to really get clear on your own. 

Visioning is intended to be inspirational and aspirational only.  Let your creative dreams flow together.  

With each response, your sweetie shares notice your inner responses and try to ask for more information.  Often we feel pulled to critique and problem-solve when visioning.  If you feel pulled to either set those thoughts aside for a future conversation. 

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This shared visioning process is some of the most rewarding work I do with couples.  I'd love to share it with you!  Give me a call if you want to deepen this conversation.

End of year reflections for couples: transition seamlessly

The turn of the year is a beautiful time for reflection. 

Having an annual pause for reflection helps us identify where we want to grow and how we want to change in the coming year.  

We reflect on our year and set personal resolutions for a better year to come.

Yet few of us use this awareness review and renew with our partner.  Give your love the attention it deserves, start a new awareness practice this season.  

Download this totally free 4-Part Annual Relationship Renewal Series and you'll get my simple process to reconnect with meaning and transform your partnership with intention as the year turns. 

Click the image below to download the worksheet.


"The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it and join the dance."  

- ALAN WATTS

You're at a transition point together, looking forward to a new year, and looking back at the past.  

Over the last two days, we've reviewed many of the strengths you share and areas for growth in your partnership.  You're ready to grow.

But before we can move forward, like the leaves in fall, we must release and let go for a wintry transition.  Use today's guide to help you tie up loose ends and resolve necessary resentments as you move on to a bright and shiny new year.

Once again, give yourself time to sit on your own and reflect on these and write out your responses.  Use the power of your written words to cultivate new meaning together.

Check in and share with your partner only after you've had time to really get clear on your own.  Then for each response, they give notice your inner responses and try to ask for more information.  Notice what shows up for you, but try to stay open to what they have to share.  

Today's work requires openness and accountability of both of you.  But this is essential to moving forward into that bright new year.

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Getting the Love You Want in Relationships: Clear Requests & Meaningful Support

One of the biggest complaints new clients come to me with is a need for more support in their relationship.  Most folks tell me they've asked and asked (maybe a thousand times) for support but just don't feel like they're getting it.  

Usually, when we talk with their partner the other side of the story includes just as many attempts at support as requests.  And on their side, these attempts are as overlooked or missed as the initial requests.  

So how do you meet in the middle?  It can help to shift the conversation by getting specific right from the beginning. While you might think you're being clear in asking for more support or telling them you feel unsupported, getting more clear will help them learn to meet your needs.

In sessions, we work to identify what meaningful support looks like to each partner- and often in each situation.  For those of you who can't make it in, I've outlined key themes in support and given examples of each on this worksheet to help you in identifying your unique support needs.  

With greater awareness and specificity you can make clear requests and your partner can more easily work to meet you where you need them most.  

Start by asking yourself, what would meaningful support look like in this situation?  What specific behaviors would help before, during, and after the situation I'm working on?  If you need inspiration download this guide for help.  

I hope this framework can help you get clearer about what you need from your sweetie- and can help them better meet you.  Let me know if you'd like my support in this conversation, I'm here for you.  

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