A good friend of mine wrote the other day asking for suggested reading after her recent break up from her sweetheart of years. Breakups can be so painful, and it can help to have reliable words to lean on when you are going through difficult times. Here are the books I recommended she read. I hope they might help you through difficult times.
These first three are best for you if you just need to heal your heart and move on. They can help, but the best remedy is a combination of time, friendship, good self care, and coaching (call me if you want help with that last one).
One of the more troubling parts of a break up is the loss of an imagines future you planned to share with your loved one. You may have felt very sure things were heading in one direction only to be surprised that they are headed down a very different path. This fantastic book can help you work through
One of the hardest things to get through is grief and loss surrounding a break up. This book will guide you through daily actions you can take to re-orient yourself toward happiness without avoiding the emotions connected to your loss.
Its not easy to think about happiness after a big heartache. Give yourself some time, and know that when you are ready to start rebuilding this book has some simple actions you can take to help get you there.
Remember to give it time, and focus on your feelings first. As one of my great mentors used to say, you can't force anything good. If you find you are trying to force yourself to move on too quickly stop, slow down, and spend a little time just being gentle with yourself.
You'll get there, I promise.